How not to look for happiness (and have it find you)

Hello. How are you? I’ve been meaning to write to you for such a long time, but I haven’t been too sure what to say. Actually that’s not exactly true… there’s been plenty to tell you but I haven’t quite known how to go about saying it.

Most of the things that have been happening since we last spoke are messy, boring, day-to-day sorts of things … the kind of challenges and successes that seem huge to me, but are really just teeny-tiny pieces in the great jigsaw of the world.

But pushing all that stuff to one side, there is one piece of news that I do think is kind of big … I’m happy.

A lovely gift

Funnily enough, I didn’t find happiness, but it sure found me.
The poor thing was huffing, puffing and straining for breath by the time it caught up with me. For whatever reason, I always thought the chase would be the other way around.

In the end, happiness wasn’t hiding under the bed, behind the couch, or on the top shelf of the pantry. One day it was just there.

New stools (yellow of course!)

It was in the green grass, the cloudy sky, and the gentle rain. It was there in the wagging of tails, the laughter shared over pets, and the brewing of a huge mug of hot tea. It was browsing bookshelves, slicing into homemade orange cake, and planning the next stage of my writing adventure.

Blue jeans, black shoes

Now I can see how all the little bits of happiness have never been all that far away. It just took me a while to slow down and notice what had always been right behind me.

It’s amazing what can be found when you’re not really looking. Don’t you think?


  1. Kylie

    So happy you are happy!

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Kylie – Thanks so much. I’m enjoying the feeling of contentment that also comes along with it. 🙂

  2. Selma

    I agree with you so much on this one, Tracey. Happiness comes to me unexpectedly too. It’s as if she won’t come if we are trying to force her to. I am so glad you are in such a good place right now!

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Selma – I feel like it probably should have been something I figured out a long time ago, but hey … sometimes you’ve got to go on a bit of a journey to get to the right place. Thanks for your happy support. xx

  3. Teresa

    I love this post Tracey and I think it’s so fabulous that you’ve found happiness!

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Teresa – Thanks so much. It feels like such a simple declaration, and yet at the same time such a complex (and important) one. xx

  4. Debby

    I’m so happy for you Tracey. Your post reminds me of one of my favourite Theroux sayings: “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…..”

    Welcome back…

    Hope you have a sunny day in every way with a butterfly sitting firmly on your shoulder…

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Debby – Thank you. It’s so lovely to have such happiness in my world meet such happiness in other people’s worlds.

      Gosh, that’s a lovely Theroux quote (and how true a statement that is). I shall do my very best to keep that butterfly happily sitting by my side. 🙂

      PS. Also, thanks for the welcome back. It feels nice to be back again. xx

  5. Rel

    It’s always the little things isn’t it! Thanks for reminding us to take pleasure in the everyday.

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Rel – It sure is about those little things … they make everything so much better (and kind of become big things in the process). 🙂

  6. Andrew


    A delight to discover a new blog post, upon opening google reader this morning. I’m glad you are happy and shared it with us.

    All the best


    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Andrew – Oh that’s so lovely of you to say. It feels good to be back and to be sharing such happy thoughts. Thank you (and have a fabulous week). 🙂

  7. woolf

    well, the mystery does keep me on my toes, but i’m sure glad it’s working out, and i’m overly happy you came round.
    i love how you’ve inserted the images here.

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Woolf – Haha … there are no deep dark mysteries here believe me, just a lot of writing and a lot of living being done. Thanks so much for your lovely words and for your visit. xx

  8. Camila Faria

    So true Tracey! I’m so glad you’ve found happiness. It’s really always where we least expect it to be. And I’m so happy you’re back to the blog-world. I’ve been missing your lovely posts.

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Camila – Thanks so much … it feels lovely to be so filled with contentment about so many things right now, and yes you never quite know where happiness will pop up! 🙂

      You are so sweet … I’ve missed your lovely posts and comments too. xx

  9. bobbi

    Yes. Slowing down and catching up energies is the key to everything. When you focus on on your unhappiness you can’t see all the things that are good in your life. I took the habit of making a list at the end of the day where I write all the nice things that have happened during that same day. When I feel down I take up that little book and read old pages. It’s an instant uplift. Also, I’m a list maniac, so the fun is double for me.
    So glad you are feeling better, and SO glad you are back!!

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Bobbi – Slowing down to catch up is something I wish I’d happened upon before … but such a realisation is all part of the journey I figure.

      Oh, I love lists too … there’s nothing better than seeing a list of positivity written down in front of you to keep it front and centre of mind. It’s lovely that you refer back to those lists from time to time when you feel down – that would definitely be a wonderful pick-me-up.

      Thanks for your sweet words Bobbi. xx

  10. laura (see hear say)

    couldn’t have agreed more tracey! sometimes happiness just comes when you least expect it and that’s going to feel even much better for the happiness to find you than the other way around. glad to see you back here 🙂

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Laura – It’s funny how we can spend a long time looking for happiness, and then it just pops up out of nowhere. Thanks for the welcome back (it’s nice to be in the blogging mode again). 🙂

  11. Hila

    I’m happy to read this, pun intended 🙂

    I’m finding myself happy these days too, not because everything is suddenly perfect or falling into place like I expected, but because I might just be growing up a bit and appreciating things for what they are. Then again, I do have my blah moments, for lack of a better word!

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Hila – Well I’m similarly happy to hear that you’re happy too … and I agree that growing up and being better at putting things into perspective is definitely part of it.

      Ha, but yes I do have those blah moments (and sometimes days), but so long as they don’t hang around for too long, I figure things are pretty good. 🙂

  12. Linda from Heartfire At Home

    There you are, I missed you!! I was so happy to see your face over on my blog comments today! I’d wondered where you were, and checked heaps, but missed your come-back! Sooooo glad you’re happy! I have fleeting moments where I’m absolutely joyful, and others where I’m sad and grumpy at the moment. I do try to keep an eye on the simple things though, because I think you’re so right….. happiness is lurking there waiting to pounce. I’ve been reading a book based on Ayurvedic principles the last week or so……. very interesting! Homemade orange cake – I hear ya! 🙂

    Linda. xox

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Linda – Thanks so much for your lovely welcome back … it’s really nice to be back and catching up with all my favourite readers and bloggers. xx

      I think those ups and downs in mood can keep us on our toes, but so long as we trust that things will eventually find some sort of ‘happy’ medium, then we can get through the low points a bit easier.

      Being mindful and appreciative of the simple things is so important, isn’t it? I’m surprised at how much happiness can be found in the little things …

      That book you’re reading sounds interesting indeed … I hope it helps you … and perhaps a slice of homemade orange cake wouldn’t hurt either? 😉

  13. ejorpin

    Loved this post! Wonderfully written, your happiness oozes through your words – hurrah! And YES, it is so surprising how happiness just appears one day, what a lovely thing 🙂

    1. tracey (Post author)

      Hi Emily – Thanks so much for your lovely comment … sometimes I think with happiness it feels a bit like I couldn’t see it for looking. It’s a tricky thing sometimes to grab on to, but oh when it’s found … well, what a wonderful thing it is to be happy. 🙂

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